Howdy all! How are you today, are you having a good day?
Clearly my post didn’t resonate with many yesterday, and that is alright! I am good with me, so it is all good! That is the whole point by the way, to feel good with you and to be able to silently, comfortably sit with yourself without requiring a distraction or attention. Have you observed that many people cannot do that? That observation is not made in judgment, but more so in concern or curiosity. What made that person that way? I love to help people and when I can, I do, simply because I want people to live their best life, being their happiest.
I personally like to grow mentally, emotionally, spiritually. I like to figure out why I think, feel, or behave certain ways, I like to do it with an open mind too with no judgment towards myself. I know that we do not have the answer for others, especially when we are receiving limited information, also possibly skewed or controlled information, but if we are open, we may provide tools, resources, or info that may help someone educate themselves, and possibly promote a desire to grow within self.
We are creatures of suffering, if we allow it. This is either a false narrative told to us in our childhood, or something along the way that was handed to us, based upon others’ own false narratives, and possibly used as a means of control. Because we know the feeling of suffering, it becomes comfortable, expected even. This is a much easier place to exist than change, discomfort, restructuring and altering our norm, or perceived norm. Our minds are like our muscles, there is a memory formed to what is consistent, this becomes something we do without thinking about it, so if we have an expectation for suffering, it becomes memory, which is displayed in habit, pattern or behavior.
The same can be said for a positive mindset. If we are taught to be resilient, forward thinking and moving, keep a broad perspective, then we are more apt to overcome, achieve goals, suffer less and pull more positivity to us. However, there are exceptions to this, such as false narratives making the negative overshadow the positive mindset and puts us in a feeling of lack, where we actualize the patterns and behaviors/habits that cause suffering.
So, how do we break this habit, pattern or behavior? We recognize there is an unwanted/undesirable thing we are doing or feeling that is not in alignment with who we are, or where we want to be. Sometimes this undesirable thing shows up as “Why do these bad things always happen to me?”, or “Why do I always attract _________kind of people in my life?”. This all goes back to the suffering we allow, or were taught was a norm for us, and that we continue to persist to exist.
We need to ask ourselves why are we holding ourselves hostage if we are aware of the suffering? What narratives are we buying in to? What bad habits or people do we allow to continue to wreak havoc in our lives? How is this keeping us from living our best lives?
I know that many people think this is a horrible time for me to to discuss this, but if you are anxious, sad, angry or struggling to deal right now, this can shed light on why this is hard for you, and lead can lead you to discovering they whys for yourself!