I am a big proponent of making the most of something, or a situation. I tend to move away from the doom and gloomers, and focus on the positive aspects at hand. I know that some of you may think otherwise of me, that is fine, but the truth is I am a very optimistic, get out of my way and let me succeed type of person. I feel that we can face a challenge and rise to the occasion, or we can sink just by letting our thoughts and feelings control the situation before it even becomes a thing. A lot of my mindset is just that, I was raised to not panic, to assess the situation, to think things through, see all sides-every angle, and to make an informed decision(thank you dad), and sometimes to just go with gut instinct. There is often no time like the present, so what an opportunity to apply said optimism and positivity.
I refuse to NOT acknowledge the realities of life, and as you may have read here before, I am not running from what is in front of me. I would rather admit to what I see, because then I can make a decision on how to proceed forward. Forward movement is after all an optimistic outlook, and I don’t want to be anything other than optimistic. You know, truthfully, I am not sure I know how to be pessimistic. Realistic, yes definitely, but I think my mom always said it best, “Everything works out in the end.” When someone believes what they say, because they have found it to always be true, and then you adopt the same mindset because you have witnessed their truth and because you too have experienced it as your own truth, it is like second nature to feel this way, and to know that it truly will be okay in the end.
Like many others, I find myself with a lot of upcoming spare time, or maybe I should say non designated time. I readily came up with a list of things I would like to get accomplished, or that were overdue in needing done in or around my home. Washing my walls down and cleaning carpet are the first two items on my list, followed closely by some outdoor projects such as reworking a landscape wall, trimming back some overgrown greenery and overall tidying and sprucing up of our outdoor spaces. Fortunately, there have been other opportunities come about as well to help round things out in my life, my favorite Yoga studio is hosting online classes, a photographer whose work I have long admired is having a portrait photography class, a professional association I am a member of is hosting photography classes, plus I have a subscription to a couple of other sites, that will keep me investing in myself and my trades in this time of isolation, as well as spending quality time with my family as we hang out and cook dinner together, which seldom happens.
I love when I am on the same wavelength with my youngest child, she is so bright and sunny, also an optimist, but most would question that statement if they didn’t really know her. Earlier in the day when I accomplished the “dirty” chores, I got cleaned up and purposely decided to blow dry my hair in to a style, fix my eyebrows and put on mascara. I had a thought about it all, and when Brooke came to my office as I was writing this and after she finished her school work and showered, I noticed that she too had dried her hair and put on mascara. I asked her thoughts on this, she said all is better in the world with mascara on. I could not agree more! To see the world with a brighter outlook, we must see ourselves with a positive outlook too. Think about it, when you look like you put no effort in, then you feel like you put no effort in. Optimism is a daily challenge of output given, and lest we start thinking like a doom and gloomer, it is best to not see ourselves without some sort of effort. I realize this sounds slightly outdated in thought, but this is what works for me, and clearly Brooke too, so we will optimistically stick with this mascara methodology!
Now, my eldest Avery, is going about things her own way. She is still getting outside to run, but has also adopted an indoors mentality of exercising in her room. We hear random, but consistent bangs and we know that she is doing handstands, lunges, squats, etc.. She is not letting up in her physical fitness regime and it is inspiring to see, or hear! She is staying consistent with her school work, as is her sister, but this all may have the biggest impact on her, you see, she is a senior. While she had a meltdown early on about the things she may be robbed of, she got it out of her system and is now focusing on the daily things she can choose to focus on, both of my girls are. After all, they know that it doesn’t help to dwell on what cannot be controlled, but to rejoice in what can be. Avery is a creature of schedule and habits, and thankfully told me what she felt was an upside to this time in our lives, it is an opportunity to rest, catch up on the things she would like to catch up on. I hear there was a crazy good blindside on Survivor, at least that is what she exclaimed this morning as she was catching up on her show, lol! She may have watched it without me, but that is okay, she had time to catch up!
My husband thankfully can do a lot of work from home, although he had to go out yesterday and will be out again tomorrow. He is planning on cleaning up the home gym and getting busy with that. He just started exercising again last year, and the benefits for him all around have been fantastic! He feels great which is the best part and I don’t want him to have to miss out on that feeling. Me, I can do yoga in any room, but he has equipment that we encroached on when we needed a little more storage, so that is on our list of must do things too. We will also finish setting up his home office to his liking in this time, which will be great for all of us. It put my career stuff all in one room, his career stuff all in one room, it freed up our kitchen table and helps us all to have space to focus on the things we want and choose to do.
We each are maintaining our daily schedules as best as we can. I can no longer do massage therapy, especially out of my home, but I am focusing on the things I can do, the things I can control. For the next bit, I hope to post words with images like I used to, things that are uplifting and inspiring, or maybe even amusing. This isn’t a band-aid or a diversion tactic, but a gentle reminder that we are still living, that there is still much beauty in this world, that we can find the little things to be of the utmost value if we look to find it. As my Taurus Moon points out, I love to see and surround myself with the comforts and beauty of life, this is my true self, and the part of me that I will share with you. We can never go back, we can only go forward, let’s make sure we keep moving with forward momentum!
Slow down, rejoice and be well my friends!