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I have noticed a trend, something that I see is becoming more wide spread, and I find it rather alarming. People often avoid things that are unpleasant, things that are hard to fathom let alone process, and things that may make us more accountable to ourselves and each other. I was once naive to think it was a trait shared only by children and immature people, the older I have gotten, I realize that is not the case.
We are in a time of “high vibes”, “positive vibes only”, etc.. Where can you look on social media and not see one of these things, or a meme of related message, or someone insisting this is what they are looking to achieve, be, embody, what not? Everyone is looking for rays of sunshine in Hurricane Katrina like storms these days, and they are ready to write off anything and anyone that is not “vibing high” with them. My question is this: what if it isn’t all sunshine and roses because we are too busy avoiding anything that looks like work, responsibility, accountability and understanding?
People do not like the things that makes them uncomfortable. People do not like to look at the things that make them feel helpless or small. People do not like negativity, hurt, or hate. People do not like looking within themselves when these things may all or partially apply. Simply put, people don’t like being responsible or accountable for the bad things in their lives, when they are the cause by practicing avoidance. Now, I am not saying that good and bad is in direct correlation with each other, but what I am saying is that you cannot have truly great things in life by avoiding the bad, at least not consistently and not with any real staying power. When we only focus on the surface, the happy, jolly times, and we never learn to deal with the bad, negative things that make us sad, unhappy or uncomfortable, this can manifest in ways that rob us of our true potential for ourselves and our lives. So what and where is our starting point?
I believe you should always start at the beginning. Why are you the way you are, what shaped you, what influenced you and the big one, what influenced, shaped and moulded the things that had all those impacts on you? Do you understand the whys, hows, and outcomes/manifestations? If you avoid looking into your self, in to the things that make you, you, you are never going to experience or embody true freedom of soul, nor resonating on a higher level. You need to have a deep understanding of yourself, learn to release what was, do not avoid looking at what makes you uncomfortable and what may have influenced you more than you care to admit, but sit with it, release it and move forward.
Once you have done all of this digging and sorting out(yes, be a soul archaeologist!), look at your choices in life you have made. Please do us both a favor and realize WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES. No one is perfect, we all make bad, poor, selfish, delusional, or messed up choices. Accept that you are human, you are not perfect, you are good enough, and at the end, you are still responsible. We can’t avoid the consequences of our choices, our words, our actions, but hear me loud and clear, when you stop avoiding the actions and feelings associated with the past, and start forgiving yourself, loving yourself, you will find there is less negativity and strife in your life. Again, this doesn’t negate the challenges and struggles life throws at you, but it sure as hell cuts down on the bad stuff you have to deal with, frees up more of your life and energy for the good things!
I have read a ton of self help material over the years, I continue to do so to this day. I always say if I am not growing and learning, then I am dead, this includes growing and learning as a person. I read a book about removing self ego, around 20 years ago, this book came in to my life when I was ready for it, and it resonated greatly with me. It discussed the merits of rising above yourself, to your higher self where you are detached from ego, the source of all your suffering. This book discussed how we create our own miseries, due to the lower self being attached to self ego, the past, things that have already happened or the choices already made. The book challenged you to release the past, to see how holding on to past offenses was attached to your ego, thus not serving your higher soul self, but actually holding on to the negative, lower sense of self and justifying your current place of suffering. How I wish I could find that book so I could share the title with you all, because honestly, I think everyone would benefit from reading it, it would end a lot of negative cycles that affect us individually, and those around us we suck in to the cycle.
I have found myself in a lower place, a place that is somehow attached to ego, but not my own. I have forgotten so much of what I have learned, but you know what? I stopped avoiding the truth, and remembered. I am not looking to “vibe higher” or to have “positive vibes only” around me, I am looking to keep my ego detached so I don’t suffer, so I can enjoy more of the good things in life, so I can take those people with attached ego in stride. How about you, are you avoiding anything?