If you have read the last several things posted here at The Photographist Life, you may be wondering why the desire to write and share what all has been said and laid out there for the world to witness is being done. Healing my friends, healing is the answer.
We were not seeking to heal ourselves through writing, truthfully we started healing individually and in our relationship way before we ever wrote a word. We wrote our pieces because we were well into healing, and wanted people to know they could heal from similar too. We chose not to be silent about our struggles, our failures if you will, but instead to own our stories and to forge a new path, separately and together for the benefit of others to see and feel comfortable enough to talk to us if they were struggling too.
I am no expert nor authority on relationships of any kind, I only know what I was seeking, what was not working for me, and what my husband was struggling with and what he now seeks. We are both good with where we have been, we are at peace with that period in our lives, we are not living out of the past, but being present every day, and approaching the future with hope and love, for ourselves, and each other. That does not mean we think “we’ve made it”, or that we’ll have a fairytale ending, but instead it means we are operating more from the same page, with the same intention to communicate better, more effectively.
I often feel the need to defend myself, and I know why. He feels the need to be defensive and combative, and he knows why. We both know our own struggles, the big and small whys, we both work on ourselves and how it all relates to “us”. We are human, beautifully damaged and flawed, but we are also healed/healing and everyday becoming better versions of ourselves, the best is yet to unfold.
I hope this post finds you well, and honest with yourself. Clarity, happiness, healing and peace to you all!